I’m Miki Dedijer. I’ve been mentoring and coaching dads on becoming more present with their children since 2013.
My specialty is helping dads create the space and time in their lives to be more available to their children.
This involves establishing habits of self-care, finding clarity on how to live passionately, co-creating a nurturing and supportive community around your family, and guiding your children with tools that build resilience.
With these practices, my clients become more present at home: finding greater peace and relaxation in their lives, enjoying a deeper sense of belonging to community, and having more fun and deeper connection with their children,
How I’m Different
I prioritize ethics/principles/values and role modelling over parenting styles or techniques, knowing that who we are as fathers is more important than what we say.
My passion is that every child matures with a deep sense of belonging. As a father, you have a unique and powerful role in making this come true. This is why I focus on supporting you in knowing your inner and outer landscape, so you can become more present with your child.
Who I have become along my life’s journey is fundamentally what I offer as a coach. For some perspectives on this, you may prefer to hear from some of the wonderful people I’ve learned from and worked with over the past decade.
Deep connection to nature is central to what I offer. I’ve been an avid student of nature since childhood, and among other experiences hold a degree in Evolution, Ecology and Behavior from Princeton University.
My coaching is grounded in a daily immersion in farm life and tending the wild. Clients find support in my nature-based system, that is inspired by a life-long fascination with the metaphors and teachings of nature, and by my friend and colleague Christopher Kuntszch.
Before I found clarity on what path I’m walking, I was deeply frustrated with an abiding sense of being lost and rudderless.
I felt my life was one failure after another–a failure to become wealthy, a failure to belong, a failure to become a writer, a failure to become a biologist, a failure to be a loving and faithful partner, and a failure to own my own home.
And every step I had to peel another layer from my heart, letting go of the idea of who I was supposed to be. I travelled the world as an international reporter and documentary filmmaker, but my heart wasn’t in it. I tried as hard as I could to stay on top of things, but I failed at that too.
Within a few years, I lost all my money. My sister then a few years later my father died. I couldn’t sleep more than a few hours at a time. And one day I simply couldn’t go on working seven days a week anymore. My body and spirit flat out refused. I was burned out.
I spent a year on sick-leave. I slept 16-hour days for months on end. I received patient guidance from compassionate elders. I started a seven year journey with therapy. I hiked a whole lot on my own.
And one day, to my delight, my love of life returned.
I rediscoved my childhood fascination with nature, where I always felt safe, welcomed, at home. I spent the next few years deeply immersed in the woods. I honed my wilderness skills with the Swedish Survival Guild.
I trained over many years one-on-one with my friend and mentor Jon Young, master tracker and storyteller, and founder of 8shields.org. For two years I also got dedicated guidance in facilitating community from Mark Morey at the Institute for Natural Learning.
I began working with children. I mentored teens and ran summer camps for inner-city kids. I co-facilitated the Art of Mentoring, and ran programs for families with small children. I taught leaders of outdoor kindergardens, initiated teenage boys, and ran wilderness programs. And I offered Year of the Fox, a yearlong workshop in nature immersion for adults.
When I look at my life today I’m surprised where I find myself. I now live with my wife and two boys as the custodian of an 80-acre farm on the west coast of Sweden. We tend the land as part of the ecosystem, learning every day how we fit in and what is asked of us to leave this place better than we found it.
Our community is slowly growing. My boys attend a local Waldorf School and deepen their friendships in a father-son group I founded. Together we learn about our place in nature, and what it means for us fathers to pass on a nourishing legacy to our sons.
I volunteer with the Mankind Project, initiating men into a broader understanding of adult masculinity. Every month, I meet with Män i Väst, a local men’s group I co-founded to provide support for men who want to live more consciously. Our process includes Shadow Work, which I have trained in as a basic facilitator.
I also staff trainings with Celebration of Being, to contribute to healing the wounds and rifts between the masculine and the feminine.
It is from this place in my life that I coach fathers in becoming more present with their children. This is my calling–to support you with all my ability in realizing your dreams for yourself as a dad, and overcoming the obstacles you face along the way.
If you are interested in hiring me as your coach, learn more about coaching with me, and fill out the form to schedule a free private 1-1 discovery session with me.
And if my story has resonated with you, you’re more than welcome to contact me in person.